You Be The Judge: Is It Chivalry or Is It Sexist
Is chivalry dead, or is it sexist? Or is it neither?
Chivalry is defined as "the medieval knightly system with its religious, moral, and social code." Specifically, "the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, especially courage, honor, courtesy, justice, and a readiness to help the weak." Wait a second? Who's the 'weak' one in this equation?
Personally, I think guys should still be holding doors and carrying the luggage, but there are some that think a guy doing that for a woman is sexist.
Let me explain where this whole debate started in our house. My husband and were going for a walk, and I ended up walking on the road side of the shoulder, in other words, closer to the oncoming cars.
"Shouldn't you be walking on the street side? Or is chivalry dead?"
My hubby went on to explain that the guy walking on the outside was an outdated idea, and was established when a woman could get splashed (or killed) by a horse or carriage. Since I can manage power tools and now get the right to vote, shouldn't I walk near the road.
"Equal rights," he said.
"Grrrrrr," is something like what I said, but with less profanity.
I don't think claiming 'equal rights' is an excuse for not being polite. And being polite, or chivalrous, is not saying - indirectly - that I'm weak. It's just...nice.
Look, guys, you don't have to stand when I leave or join the table, but you can definitely pull out my chair and help me with my coat.
And yeah, if you want to the open the car door for me - go for it. Carry my luggage? Go right ahead. Hold the door? Uh, yeah. Sue me, but I don't think it's sexist.
Yes, I can wield a power tool, I installed all our hardwood floors, and yes, I swear. But that doesn't mean I don't want you to be nice and send flowers and stuff.
Chivalry isn't dead, it just smells funny. Do you think it should be?