If you're working in any sort of workplace in Central New York, wouldn't it be nice to have a better relationship with your coworkers? One Upstate New York therapist has tips to make that possible.

According to the American Bureau of Labor Statistics Time Use Survey of 2021, the average American is working around 7.5 hours each weekday in an office, garage, some sort of setting outside of the workplace. Gettysburg College found that the average person will spend 90,000 hours at work over a lifetime. Another quick fact if those numbers weren't enough, 2 in 10 adult U.S. employees say they definitely have a “best friend” at work, according to a quarterly Gallup survey done in June 2022.

If we are going to be working so many hours in an office, it's time to improve your workplace relationships. We aren't talking dating relationships, this isn't tips to win over a work wife or work husband. This is how to form strong friendships and bonds with people you work with on a day to day basis.

Suzanne Chabot, owner of Heart in Hand Therapy of Utica New York, both a Registered Professional Nurse and a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist. She currently works with couples and adults.

"My areas of expertise include relationship difficulties, navigating life cycle transitions, eating disorders, and anxiety."

Suzanne has the following tips to improve and build strong workplace relationships:

1) If You Lose A Close Co-Worker, Give Your Self Time To Grieve

Say you had a partner for many many years. Maybe they moved on to a new job. Suzanne says it's very important to process this change and grieve:

"I think it's important to allow for space for space to allow yourself to grieve, because it doesn't really matter what sort of change you have in your life, there's always loss associated with change, it can be the best change. So it's important to be able to have the space to grieve to have the support systems in place."

2) Have Patience

Have patience when working with new people. Get to know them, ask questions, feel them out:

"Have the patience with each other and to be curious. Allow the curiosity to come in."

3) Find Areas Where You Do Connect, And Where Buttons Can Be Pushed

Truly find those areas where you can connect with someone one on one:

"I would say first and foremost, that it doesn't really matter, the relationship, right? You have family relationships, you have friend relationships, you have work relationships, romantic relationships, those things change. But the two things that are constant, are you number one, yeah. And the relational dynamics that really make or break a relationship, what makes it healthy. So finding areas where you can connect. Things that you can play off of, but then also, knowing yourself, knowing your core values, things that core value or boundaries."

You can't assume the other person has the same buttons that get pushed like you. We are all different, what makes you angry might not make your coworker angry:

"What are some other things areas that are, you know, buttons that can be pushed? Right? Not assuming that the other person has the same buttons? Or has the same core values? That's where the curiosity comes in. And it's easy to go to the negative, Humans tend to do that. So finding points and areas of connection, which tend to be exceptions, sometimes when you're stressed, are important. And Grace."

You can follow Suzanne on Instagram online HERE, and check out Heart In Hand Therapy online here.

Listen to our interview with Suzanne here:

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We decided to ask ChatGPT for 21 different restaurants to check out across Upstate New York, The Mohawk Valley, and Central New York. We also asked it to provide a signature dish to try out. Here's those choices based of entirely of ChatGPT. We didn't influence this list whatsoever:

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Newsweek magazine recently published its ranking of the top hospitals in the world and 10 are here in New York State. Who made this list?

Newsweek based its list of the Top 250 hospitals on earth based on four criteria: patient care, research, innovation, and consistency. 2023 marks the fifth year the publication put together data on hospitals from around the world. This year's data reportedly includes more than 2,300 hospitals from 28 countries, approximately 400 in the Unites states.

Here's the ones from New York State:

26 Restaurants In Utica New York You Need To Try At Least Once

This following list is a great resource if you're looking for some new places to try, or if you're just looking for some place to start. This list is strictly restaurants in Utica New York. Not the Utica area or surrounding towns, but Utica New York. We took submissions from all over social media to build this list. We will have other lists for other parts of our region to showcase next. But right now, let's focus on Utica:



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